Commuter Marriage: Dinamika Komunikasi Interpersonal dan Ketahanan Keluarga dalam Pernikahan Jarak Jauh

Taufik Hidayat; Arisman Arisman

doi:10.23917/jkk.v5i2.1050

Authors

Taufik Hidayat Pascasarjana, Universitas Islam Negeri Sultan Syarif Kasim, Pekanbaru
Indonesia
Arisman Arisman Pascasarjana, Universitas Islam Negeri Sultan Syarif Kasim, Pekanbaru
Indonesia

DOI:

https://doi.org/10.23917/jkk.v5i2.1050

Keywords:

commuter marriage, komunikasi interpersonal, manajemen konflik, ketahanan keluarga, family resilience

Abstract

Commuter marriage merupakan bentuk pernikahan jarak jauh yang terjadi ketika pasangan suami istri hidup terpisah secara geografis akibat tuntutan pekerjaan, pendidikan, maupun kebutuhan ekonomi. Fenomena ini semakin berkembang seiring meningkatnya mobilitas tenaga kerja dan pola kehidupan dual-career pada masyarakat modern. Penelitian ini bertujuan untuk menganalisis dinamika commuter marriage, khususnya terkait karakteristik hubungan, komunikasi interpersonal, manajemen konflik, ketahanan keluarga, serta strategi mempertahankan keharmonisan rumah tangga. Penelitian menggunakan pendekatan systematic literature review (SLR) dengan metode deskriptif-analitik. Data diperoleh melalui penelusuran literatur dari Google Scholar, Scopus, dan ProQuest menggunakan kata kunci commuter marriage, long-distance marriage, komunikasi interpersonal, ketahanan keluarga, dan family resilience. Literatur yang digunakan merupakan artikel ilmiah terbitan tahun 2010–2023 yang relevan dengan fokus penelitian. Analisis data dilakukan secara tematik-integratif melalui proses identifikasi, pengkodean, sintesis, dan interpretasi temuan dari berbagai sumber penelitian. Hasil penelitian menunjukkan bahwa commuter marriage memiliki karakteristik berupa keterpisahan geografis, keterbatasan interaksi langsung, serta ketergantungan terhadap teknologi komunikasi. Faktor utama penyebab commuter marriage meliputi pekerjaan, ekonomi, pendidikan, dan pola kehidupan dual-career. Komunikasi interpersonal yang efektif, pengelolaan konflik secara konstruktif, serta ketahanan keluarga menjadi faktor utama dalam menjaga stabilitas hubungan. Selain itu, strategi seperti penguatan kepercayaan, komunikasi intensif, dukungan sosial, dan pertemuan tatap muka secara berkala terbukti membantu pasangan mempertahankan keharmonisan rumah tangga. Penelitian ini menegaskan bahwa keberhasilan commuter marriage tidak hanya ditentukan oleh kedekatan fisik, tetapi juga oleh kualitas komunikasi, komitmen, kemampuan adaptasi, dan ketahanan keluarga dalam menghadapi tantangan kehidupan modern.

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